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    Archive for July, 2009

    The Confidence Con Game

    Friday, July 24th, 2009

    Personal note: You may have noticed that the frequency of my posting has diminished quite a bit. In part that’s because I started this blog to have a way to get out of my head the various rants that make appearances while I’m in the hot tub or in the car. And, I’ve gotten a lot of them out of my head.

    Every now and then, I’ll get an idea about something to write and then realize, “I’ve already made that post.”

    I don’t feel an urge to beat the same dead horse just for the sake of having content… so, I’m not saying a whole lot lately.

    Now, that said, I’ve probably already talked about the subject of this post, but I was overtaken by the urge to scream and, instead, turned here…

    I just got an email advertising Tony Robbins’ ‘Creating Unstoppable Confidence” course.

    If ever there were an idea that needs to be taken in the back and flogged, it’s the notion that you need to be confident in order to succeed.

    Come on, think about it.

    Is it possible to have REAL confidence about something you’ve never done before you do it?

    No, that’s called bravado, or naivete, or arrogance, or… oh, what’s the Latin word?… right, STUPIDITY.

    Like all these ideas about “what leads to success” if you just look at your own life, you can find innumerable examples that disprove the theory.

    Confident you could learn to ride a bike? Nope. Not until the AHA! moment where you understood what balance felt like. And even then it took more time until you were able to hop on and start riding without a bit of anxiety.

    Confidence is not something you get in ADVANCE, it’s what you get with EXPERIENCE. And, even then, it’s iffy and, probably unnecessary.

    I was remembering how, back in 1976, when I learned to do a standing back flip, I would spend 5 minutes psyching myself up before I gave it everything I had, with the hopes I wouldn’t screw up and land on my head. Now, 200,000 back flips and 33 years later, I know I can spin around with the best of ’em. AND, if I haven’t done one in a couple of months (you might be surprised at how infrequently one needs to do a standing back flip in real life), I’m still a bit anxious as I throw myself in the air.

    It’s only when I land, preferably on my feet, that my confidence comes back, and then I’m more than happy to play circus monkey and do another one or two for the kids (not mine; whichever kids were around).

    And think of the number of things you’ve attempted because you were confident you could do them, and then, well, reality had a different opinion. Orthopedic surgeons pay for their Porsches with the confidence of weekend warriors who are SURE they’ll be fine if they go chasing a Frisbee like they remember doing 20 years earlier.

    Of course, you don’t need to rely on your own experience to debunk the “Confidence leads to success” theory.

    Ever heard of a politician who DIDN’T believe, with utter confidence, that s/he would win?

    I met one of Walter Mondale’s kids back in 1974… by then Walter had already spent 2 decades getting ready to become president. I’m sure he’s just waiting in the wings for his comeback.

    I keep a collection of videos of interviews with people who are thought of as successful (not saying they aren’t, but yesterday’s success may become tomorrow’s bankrupt jailbird).  My two favorites are Lance Armstrong and Larry David (co-creator of Seinfeld) when each of them was interviewed by Charlie Rose.

    In each, Charlie tries to get his guests to admit they had confidence about their successes.

    But in each, neither one concedes that point. Lance keeps saying, “Anything can happen in a race. You never know.” And Larry talks about how, every time the network asked him for more shows, he was 100% confident… that he couldn’t deliver!

    Does that remind you of the stories you’ve read about actors and athletes who have to puke before each performance because they’re so anxious about bombing?

    See? It doesn’t take much to debunk the theory.

    I’m sure that, were I in a different mood, I could posit some clever idea from evolutionary psychology to say why, despite all the evidence to the contrary, we still hold onto this lie that confidence and success have any correlation… in fact, I have unstoppable confidence that I could.

    I couldn’t care less. Really. I tried.

    Saturday, July 4th, 2009

    If a picture is worth 1,000 words, this video must be worth 1,000,000… each one better than what I could have come up with, so here it is:

    I’d like to hear a Homeopathic doctor on the witness stand for malpractice:

    “What do you expect?! I did as little as I could do!”




     

     

     

     

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