{"id":56,"date":"2008-03-03T22:31:05","date_gmt":"2008-03-04T04:31:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/56\/in-fact-i-dont-want-to-attract-anything-to-me\/"},"modified":"2008-03-03T22:55:32","modified_gmt":"2008-03-04T04:55:32","slug":"in-fact-i-dont-want-to-attract-anything-to-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/56\/in-fact-i-dont-want-to-attract-anything-to-me\/","title":{"rendered":"In fact, I DON’T want to ATTRACT anything to me"},"content":{"rendered":"

If I get one more email with information about how to Attract<\/strong> more money, more clients, the right relationship, a better job, a new car, or anything else for that matter, I think I’m going to scream (actually, I just got THREE of them, which made me scream, and then write this post).<\/p>\n

Here’s another option, if there’s something you want, why not DO SOMETHING<\/strong> that will, with a high degree of confidence, increase the probability that you can GET IT<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I call this the “Shampoo School of Living.” Instead of lather, rinse, repeat<\/em>, it’s Orient in the direction of what you want, Take a simple step that moves you in that direction, Re-Orient and repeat<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Do this and I GUARANTEE one of two results:<\/p>\n

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  1. You’ll get what you want!<\/li>\n
  2. You won’t get what you want.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    I can’t tell, in advance, which of those will happen — nor can anyone else — but, I assure you, it will only be one of those two possibilities.<\/p>\n

    You may have noticed something with my formula: There is no guarantee that you’ll get what you want. Or, just as true, there’s no guarantee that if you get what you want, you’ll be happy.<\/p>\n

    (There is, though, a guarantee that if you find a million people who’ve gotten what you want and were no happier for it, you’ll think you’re special and that you would be unlike all of them — “I’ve never heard of anyone becoming permanently happy as a result of becoming wealthy, but when <\/em>I <\/strong>become rich, <\/em>I’ll<\/strong> be different.”)<\/em><\/p>\n

    Want a guarantee of getting what you want and being happy? Well, to paraphrase the Buddha, move to a different universe.<\/p>\n

    They don’t sell those guarantees in this one.<\/p>\n

    Oh, wait, they do! It’s all the crap about “Attracting<\/strong>” what you want that clogs my inbox every day!<\/p>\n

    If it’s possible to “attract” new clients from the comfort of my own mind, that’s so much easier than writing a good advertisement, or giving free lectures to potential clients, or cold calling, or asking for referrals, or, well… anything!<\/p>\n

    And, hell, if you weren’t going to get what you wanted, wouldn’t you rather have not <\/strong>put out any real effort than busted your hump only to be thwarted by factors out of your control?<\/p>\n

    Personally, I’d rather do something tangible, <\/strong>something that you could see me doing on a video tape (okay, it’s 2008, a DVD or on YouTube). I don’t want to try to “attract” something to me. I want to move toward it! The odds are, I’m more mobile than whatever I think I want.<\/p>\n

    The joke, of course, is that if you want to control the universe, there’s an easy way: Get up off your attracting-something butt and do something. <\/strong>Guaranteed that when you do, the universe will change.<\/p>\n

    If you seem to be progressing, keep going. If you seem to be going in the wrong direction, or in circles, either do something different or, maybe, recognize that what you’re trying to do isn’t possible… like making some un-measurable inner change that will magically cause you to become a “magnet to” what you think you want.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    If I get one more email with information about how to Attract more money, more clients, the right relationship, a better job, a new car, or anything else for that matter, I think I’m going to scream (actually, I just got THREE of them, which made me scream, and then write this post). Here’s another […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[20,8,7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-56","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-manifestation","category-new-age","category-self-improvement"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=56"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=56"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=56"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sashen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=56"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}